How To Make Your Relationship Last Longer

Since we have established and accepted that conflict is part of life, the reasonable thing to do therefore is to device a means of handling it with little consequences. This on its own is one of the things that make life very interesting; ability to solve problems and move on.


Having said that, the life span, peace, strength and depth of a relationship depend to a great extent on the ability of the people involved to manage their differences and challenges. Some lovely unions got split just because someone was not tactful enough in handling its crisis. It’s embarrassing to say that most people are taken by surprise when conflict emerge- they thought the relationship was too sweet to go sour but that; we should know is a lie. In as much as no one prays for conflict to happen, it’s wise to know that it can and will happen someday.




Conflict they say is inevitable..


Reactions most often gives rise to disagreement than the main issue at hand. Your response to situations and people determines how soon the problem at hand can be resolved. Again, people’s reactions are guided or inspired by a whole lot of factors: including accumulated grievances and malice, thus finding the slightest medium to explode or express dissatisfaction/displeasure.


Being able to handle conflict therefore will lean on certain principles…


The principle of proper communication: More than half of the time, conflict occur as a result of poor communication. This might take the form of misunderstanding of information,
misrepresentation, misinterpretation or mismanagement. Solving a problem at hand will then require going to the drawing board-what caused it in the first instance? Apart from trying to understand the disposition of the characters involved, addressing the;


1. How
2. Why
3.When
4 and where the problem started could be a right step to achieving success.

• How; This explains the nature of conflict.
• Why; This will centre on the trigger of the problem.
•When; Are there certain situations that cause or fuel conflict?
•Where; The location as at when things happened can go a long way to determine how the other party will react. For instance, some people do not like to be corrected where junior colleagues or younger folks are.